Comments on: Are You Ready For a Baby? http://www.theblarg.com/2010/03/04/are-you-ready-for-a-baby/ Thu, 15 Dec 2011 16:58:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: nathan118 http://www.theblarg.com/2010/03/04/are-you-ready-for-a-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-24312 nathan118 Tue, 23 Mar 2010 05:11:36 +0000 http://www.theblarg.com/2010/03/04/are-you-ready-for-a-baby/#comment-24312 I don't think you're selfish...and I don't think everyone HAS to have kids (especially if it's not something you want). I think the problem is like what you said...when you start a family, but let selfishness ruin those relationships or prevent you from being the parent you should. So when you're more on your own like you, I wouldn't really call that selfish, because it's just you. You don't have a spouse or a kid to devote time to, and that's by choice. So just because you devote more of your time to you, it's not like you're slighting anyone else in the process. Thanks for the single person's perspective. ;) I don’t think you’re selfish…and I don’t think everyone HAS to have kids (especially if it’s not something you want).

I think the problem is like what you said…when you start a family, but let selfishness ruin those relationships or prevent you from being the parent you should.

So when you’re more on your own like you, I wouldn’t really call that selfish, because it’s just you. You don’t have a spouse or a kid to devote time to, and that’s by choice. So just because you devote more of your time to you, it’s not like you’re slighting anyone else in the process.

Thanks for the single person’s perspective. ;)

]]> By: Shannon http://www.theblarg.com/2010/03/04/are-you-ready-for-a-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-24311 Shannon Tue, 23 Mar 2010 05:05:53 +0000 http://www.theblarg.com/2010/03/04/are-you-ready-for-a-baby/#comment-24311 It's a funny thing, selfishness. Many in society would consider me selfish for not wanting to have children. They consider me selfish for not wanting to give up my comfortable life and relative freedom because I don't want to be a parent. On the flip side I, like many others, feel its selfish to bring a child into your family that you neither want or desire to care for. So how can two opposing things both be selfish? A person who decides not to have children and a person who has children they don't want. So maybe what potential parents should consider is not weather or not they can be selfless but rather to recognize that it ok to be selfish, if even for only one second in a million. It’s a funny thing, selfishness. Many in society would consider me selfish for not wanting to have children. They consider me selfish for not wanting to give up my comfortable life and relative freedom because I don’t want to be a parent. On the flip side I, like many others, feel its selfish to bring a child into your family that you neither want or desire to care for. So how can two opposing things both be selfish? A person who decides not to have children and a person who has children they don’t want. So maybe what potential parents should consider is not weather or not they can be selfless but rather to recognize that it ok to be selfish, if even for only one second in a million.

]]> By: Judy http://www.theblarg.com/2010/03/04/are-you-ready-for-a-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-24302 Judy Fri, 05 Mar 2010 17:46:45 +0000 http://www.theblarg.com/2010/03/04/are-you-ready-for-a-baby/#comment-24302 It seems crazy to me that anyone would have a baby without contemplating the degree of self-less-ness it is going to require. But even with giving it serious consideration ahead of time, there is really no way to understand it completely until you experience it. I suppose if one tends to be on the selfish side, they will react negatively to all the demands. Someone who is more selfless will appreciate the growth in character it produces. It's natural to be so crazy in love with your newborn, that you couldn't imagine not doing everything that is required to take good care of them. It seems crazy to me that anyone would have a baby without contemplating the degree of self-less-ness it is going to require. But even with giving it serious consideration ahead of time, there is really no way to understand it completely until you experience it. I suppose if one tends to be on the selfish side, they will react negatively to all the demands. Someone who is more selfless will appreciate the growth in character it produces. It’s natural to be so crazy in love with your newborn, that you couldn’t imagine not doing everything that is required to take good care of them.

]]> By: Angelo Alberico http://www.theblarg.com/2010/03/04/are-you-ready-for-a-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-24301 Angelo Alberico Fri, 05 Mar 2010 05:45:56 +0000 http://www.theblarg.com/2010/03/04/are-you-ready-for-a-baby/#comment-24301 Agreed, Selflessness is probably the number one thing to consider (about yourself) before you decide to try to have a baby. Giving up of your time and comfort are the most critical. I used to think that getting married would've been the biggest, scariest and hardest thing I'd ever do. In hindsight, with the right partner, living together and being a good partner is actually pretty easy. People can take care of themselves and therefore the time and comfort of each can bend a bit and things could still be fine. You could have two selfish people in this case and though it's likely not to last very long, they could function. Regarding having a child, you just can't have any selfishness and the situation requires both partners to give up their time and comfort quite often (it's essential in the beginning.) That person you and your partner create NEEDS you. They can't do ANYTHING, they require so much attention and care, it would seem impossible if not hazardous to their health if you were to act in a selfish manner. I'll let you know how it goes with having another child :) Agreed, Selflessness is probably the number one thing to consider (about yourself) before you decide to try to have a baby. Giving up of your time and comfort are the most critical.

I used to think that getting married would’ve been the biggest, scariest and hardest thing I’d ever do. In hindsight, with the right partner, living together and being a good partner is actually pretty easy. People can take care of themselves and therefore the time and comfort of each can bend a bit and things could still be fine. You could have two selfish people in this case and though it’s likely not to last very long, they could function.

Regarding having a child, you just can’t have any selfishness and the situation requires both partners to give up their time and comfort quite often (it’s essential in the beginning.)

That person you and your partner create NEEDS you. They can’t do ANYTHING, they require so much attention and care, it would seem impossible if not hazardous to their health if you were to act in a selfish manner.

I’ll let you know how it goes with having another child :)

]]> By: nathan118 http://www.theblarg.com/2010/03/04/are-you-ready-for-a-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-24300 nathan118 Fri, 05 Mar 2010 05:05:19 +0000 http://www.theblarg.com/2010/03/04/are-you-ready-for-a-baby/#comment-24300 It is scary? Or is it scary? It is scary? Or is it scary?

]]> By: Padfoot240 http://www.theblarg.com/2010/03/04/are-you-ready-for-a-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-24299 Padfoot240 Fri, 05 Mar 2010 04:48:12 +0000 http://www.theblarg.com/2010/03/04/are-you-ready-for-a-baby/#comment-24299 I am scared to have a kid. It is scary? I am scared to have a kid.
It is scary?

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